{"id":323,"date":"2015-06-17T16:35:37","date_gmt":"2015-06-17T20:35:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/?p=323"},"modified":"2021-04-19T16:01:06","modified_gmt":"2021-04-19T20:01:06","slug":"win-win-win","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/2015\/06\/win-win-win\/","title":{"rendered":"Win-Win-Win"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t usually write about my mediations, in order to protect their confidentiality. But this one is too rich not to share. (Some identifying details have been changed.)<\/p>\n<p>A business dispute resulted in a small claims action that went to mediation through our local Dispute Resolution Center of West Michigan. After each side told their story, which the other disputed, they both cautiously agreed that they\u2019d like to do business again with one another, if possible. Defendant offered plaintiff a small sum, which plaintiff rejected as an insult. We broke to caucus.<\/p>\n<p>P told me in caucus that he wasn\u2019t sure what he wanted, but that little monetary payment wasn\u2019t enough, so I encouraged him to think about what else would make him want to do business again with D. In the caucus with D, she said she would not apologize, and she couldn\u2019t offer much more money, so I encouraged her to think about what else she could offer P to encourage P to do business again with D.<\/p>\n<p>When they resumed their joint session, they did some negotiating. Here\u2019s what they came up with:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>D paid P a small sum<\/li>\n<li>D will make a small donation to a local charity of P\u2019s choice<\/li>\n<li>D will provide P with products from D\u2019s business that are some of P\u2019s favorites<\/li>\n<li>D will hire P\u2019s relative for the summer<\/li>\n<li>P will meet with D\u2019s colleague to extend forgiveness.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In my introduction, I tell parties that mediation offers an opportunity to come up with creative, unique resolutions tailored specifically to their situation. This case was a perfect example of that. It was win-win-win &#8212; not only did the parties both feel that they had \u201cwon,\u201d but that local charity wins too!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t usually write about my mediations, in order to protect their confidentiality. But this one is too rich not to share. (Some identifying details have been changed.) A business dispute resulted in a small claims action that went to mediation through our local Dispute Resolution Center of West Michigan. After each side told their [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-323","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-learnings-from-mediation"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/323","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=323"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/323\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":324,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/323\/revisions\/324"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=323"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=323"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=323"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}