{"id":666,"date":"2019-02-15T16:17:25","date_gmt":"2019-02-15T21:17:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/?p=666"},"modified":"2021-04-19T16:01:04","modified_gmt":"2021-04-19T20:01:04","slug":"before-you-send-that-tweet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/2019\/02\/before-you-send-that-tweet\/","title":{"rendered":"Before You Send That Tweet&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Twitter User:<\/p>\n<p>Before you hit \u201csend,\u201d please consider:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>\u00a0What\u2019s urging you to send this tweet? (a) anger\/rage; (b) contribution to the national dialogue on a topic; (c) fun; (d) gaining notoriety.<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0What requires that you send it now? \u00a0(a) I\u2019m shocked and I want people to I know it; (b) if I don\u2019t send it now, my tweet will be buried in hundreds of thousands of others; (c) I\u2019ll forget about it in like 30 seconds; (d) I won\u2019t reach my target goal of followers.<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0Is this tweet likely to embarrass\/offend\/harass anyone? \u00a0If yes: (a) I don\u2019t care, because of my Constitutional right to free speech. \u00a0 (b) I don\u2019t know; I really haven\u2019t thought about it and anyway, everybody seems offended about everything these days; (c) the only person my tweet is aimed at deserves the slam and I\u2019m not thinking about anybody else right now.<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0Is there any possibility that your comment may be wrong factually, or run contrary to a sense of ethics or morality? \u00a0If yes: \u00a0(a) I\u2019m tweeting alternative facts; (b) whose ethics and morality? (c) I don\u2019t understand the question.<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0If public pressure or your own change of heart\/mind prompted you to retract your comment and issue an apology, would you: \u00a0(a) send another tweet apologizing to everyone you may have offended; (b) apologize, but cite other sources as prompting your hysteria; (c) construct your apology so that you\u2019re really not apologizing for anything, since that\u2019s honestly how you feel but you know you need to \u201clook good.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>In the event you need to issue an apology, here&#8217;s a handy outline:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Regret:<\/em> I am (sorry\/sad\/disappointed in myself\/regretful) that\u2026<\/li>\n<li><em>Responsibility:<\/em> I (did\/said\/offended\/hurt) you. Hint: Be as specific as possible in naming\/describing the offensive behavior.<\/li>\n<li><em>Recognize the harm:<\/em> I realize that my (words\/actions\/neglect\/failure\/omission) had the impact of (hurting\/offending\/embarrassing\/violating\/humiliating\/damaging) (you\/your family\/our family\/our community etc.). Hint: If you don\u2019t know the impact on your victim, try to imagine; or ask them.<\/li>\n<li><em>Restitution\/repair<\/em>: I intend to make up for this by (paying money\/changing behavior\/ fixing what I damaged \/ turning myself into the police)<\/li>\n<li><em>Change future behavior<\/em>: I will make sure I never do this again by (joining AA\/ seeking counseling\/engaging an accountability partner\/ swearing off Twitter, FB, other social media)<\/li>\n<li><em>Request forgiveness<\/em>, if appropriate.<\/li>\n<li><em>Check:<\/em> If your apology contains any of the following words, re-work it so it\u2019s declarative instead of conditional: if\/but\/maybe\/perhaps\/might\/any.<\/li>\n<li><em>Check:<\/em> Is anything stated in passive voice? Re-word it so the subject is doing the verb. (Example: Instead of, \u201cmistakes were made,\u201d say, \u201cWe made mistakes.\u201d)<\/li>\n<li><em>Check:<\/em> If your apology includes an explanation for why you did what you did, drop it. Save that until your victim asks you what on earth you were thinking.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Twitter User: Before you hit \u201csend,\u201d please consider: \u00a0What\u2019s urging you to send this tweet? (a) anger\/rage; (b) contribution to the national dialogue on a topic; (c) fun; (d) gaining notoriety. \u00a0What requires that you send it now? \u00a0(a) I\u2019m shocked and I want people to I know it; (b) if I don\u2019t send [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-666","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-apologies"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/666","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=666"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":669,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/666\/revisions\/669"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/abfifer.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}