Apologies from Tech Leaders This Week

The Wall Street Journal yesterday compiled apologies offered this week from leaders of several tech firms as they announced staffing cuts (“Tech Founders Apologize for Growing Too Fast”).

  • “I got this wrong and I take responsibility for that.” Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook parent Meta Platforms, announcing that it would cut 11,000 workers.
  • “I grew the company size too quickly. I apologize for that.” Jack Dorsey, co-founder of Twitter, after its new owner announced a 50% staff cut.
  • “I take responsibility for choosing to grow our team faster. And now I also own the decision…resulting in this layoff.” Jeff Lawson, CEO of Twilio, announcing a cut of 11% of the company’s workforce.
  • “I’m sorry. That’s the biggest thing. I [screwed] up and should have done better.” Sam Bankman-Fried, founder of troubled crypto exchange FTX, detailing its swift decline. Mr. Bankman-Fried offered another apology as he resigned today.

These apologies meet the basic criteria: acknowledgement of wrongdoing – in this case, errors in judgment – coupled with personal responsibility. To their credit, the apology was followed by a period. If the speaker added more – as Mr. Zuckerberg did –, it sounded more like explanation than excuse, because he led with the apology, followed by a period.

It’s easier for corporations to issue statements in passive voice – “mistakes were made.” To their credit, these leaders spoke in first-person.

Hopefully the full text of each apology also includes an acknowledgement of the harm done – in this case, to employees, many of whom were hired just in the last two years. Ideally, an apology would also include a statement of how the offender intends to fix things, and to avoid similar mistakes in the future.

The British Prime Minister Apologizes

British Prime Minister Liz Truss took the opportunity yesterday to apologize for the fiscal decisions made during her brief but controversial tenure in office. Her plans announced last month to cut taxes roiled financial markets, prompting the firing of her Chancellor of the Exchequer Friday, and replacing him with a new head of treasury who announced major changes – the media calls them “U-turns” — to the government’s fiscal policy.

In an interview with the BBC, Ms. Truss said, “I recognize we have made mistakes. I’m sorry for those mistakes.”

So far, so good. Two key elements of a good apology are taking responsibility, as indicated by use of “I”, and using the word “sorry” appropriately.

But, perhaps a little too quickly, she tried to swing the attention from the past to the future:

“But I fixed the mistakes – I’ve appointed a new chancellor; we have restored economic stability and fiscal discipline…“  A good apology includes a plan to repair the damage done, but most Britons would probably not agree that everything is “fixed” yet. It might have been better had she said that she was trying to repair the damage done, acknowledging that it may take awhile for the “mistakes” to be “fixed.” She seems to imply that appointing a new chief treasurer has “fixed” everything, but it hasn’t.

Later in the interview, she added this:

“I do want to accept responsibility and say sorry for the mistakes that have been made… We went too far and too fast; I’ve acknowledged that. I’ve put in place a new chancellor …”

Here, she violates one of the cardinal rules of good apologies: Never use passive voice. “Mistakes that have been made” is deadly to a good apology. She softens it by coupling it with accepting responsibility and saying sorry. She also offers a bit of an explanation for what happened: “we went too far, too fast.” This could be seen as an honest assessment of how she made the “mistakes.” The line in an apology between “explanation” and “excuse” is a fine one, but this sounds to me more like explanation, and helps answer the question every apology recipient wants answered: do you know what you did wrong?

In a part of the interview not shown in this clip, the reporter asks her whether this has all been “humiliating.” Being a seasoned politican, she does not answer his question, but she does offer this:

“I do think it is the mark of an honest politician who does say ‘yes, I’ve made a mistake.’ I’ve addressed that mistake. And now we need to deliver for the people…”

Public apologies are difficult, especially when the full extent of the damage done is not yet known. Kudos to PM Truss for making the effort, resulting in a pretty good apology.

ADR Section Recommends More Mediator Disclosure

What should mediators disclose to parties who are considering appointing them as their mediator? Mediators are supposed to be neutral, so parties want to know about any connections a mediator may have with a party or attorney that might make them biased.

The Michigan Mediator Standards of Conduct provide guidance on this. They require mediators to disclose conflicts of interest and grounds of bias or partiality reasonably known to the mediator (Standard III.C). A conflict of interest is defined as “a dealing or relationship that could reasonably be viewed as creating an impression of possible bias or as raising a question about the impartiality or self-interest on the part of the mediator.” Standard III.A. (Michigan’s Standards of Conduct for Mediators are very similar to the Model Standards of Conduct for Mediators.)

In a 2019 case, Michigan’s Attorney Discipline Board (ADB) opined that requiring attorney-mediators to disclose any prior relationship with another attorney would be unworkable, and stated that “[w]ithout specific language describing what does and does not constitute a conflict of interest, the Standards of Conduct for Mediators does not adequately inform a mediator… as to what kind of prior relationship will subject the mediator to a charge of an unethical conflict of interest …..”

The ADR Section of the State Bar took this as a challenge, and appointed an ad hoc committee to review the standards on disclosure. I have had the privilege of serving on this committee, along with Mat Kobliska, Dale Ann Iverson, Mike Leib, Marty Weisman, Ed Pappas and Bob Wright, ably chaired by Lisa Taylor. The committee’s goal was to develop guidelines regarding mediator disclosures that would be more helpful to mediators, especially in providing the specificity that the ADB found was lacking.

The result is a proposal to amend the Standards of Conduct, by merging Standard II, Impartiality, and Standard III, Conflicts of Interest, into one new standard entitled, “Impartiality, Disclosure and Withdrawal.” The proposed standard does not change the essence of the current Standards, but it provides more specific guidance regarding disclosure.

As it studied how impartiality applies to mediators, the committee realized that the term “conflict of interest” doesn’t quite get at the problem. A mediator could well be partial without having a particular conflict of interest. So the committee proposes doing away with the term “conflict of interest” in the Standards. Instead, the proposed standard speaks of “dealing or relationship” and “impartiality or self-interest.”

For example:

Current Standard III.C. A mediator shall promptly disclose conflicts of interest, grounds of bias, and grounds of partiality reasonably known to the mediator.

Proposed (new II.D.) A mediator shall promptly disclose a dealing or relationship that could reasonably be viewed as raising a question about the mediator’s impartiality or self-interest.

The committee also discovered some guidance from the ABA, designed for judges, that it found quite helpful for mediators too. The ABA identified three main categories that neutrals should investigate as they consider what to disclose, with three sub-categories within the third main category:

  1. Financial
  2. Professional
  3.  Personal

a. Acquaintances

b. Friendships

c. Close personal relationships.

Within the “Personal” category are three levels of social relationships, in descending level of closeness: acquaintances, friendships, and close personal relationships. Generally, acquaintances – including social media links – do not need to be disclosed. On the other hand, close personal relationships most likely should be disclosed, and friendships lie somewhere in between. Our committee thought this would be especially helpful in addressing the problem confronting the ADB, where a divorce mediator did not tell Husband and his attorney that she made plans to visit Wife’s attorney at his condo in Florida during the pendency of the case. The ADB ruled that the mediator had done nothing unethical by failing to disclose her friendship with Wife’s attorney, but our committee thought otherwise, and believe this more specific guidance regarding friendships would make such disclosures more likely.

SCAO has final authority on Mediator Standards of Conduct, pursuant to Court Rule, and our ad hoc committee has submitted its proposal to SCAO. But, whether or not SCAO approves this version, take a look and see if these give you a better idea of what exactly you should and should not disclose.

Standards Of Conduct Proposal Submitted to SCAO

On Papal Apologies

The Pope completed a tour to Canada last week that included multiple expressions of apology to Native peoples for the Catholic Church’s role in their forced assimilation.

Did it help? Did his apologies “hit the mark” or were they insufficient somehow? Depends on who you ask. Many people wept in response to the Pope’s heartfelt remarks, which included saying that he was “deeply sorry” and asking for forgiveness. But he apparently did not apologize on behalf of the Catholic Church, which some listeners were hoping to hear. This may be because the Catholic Church per se cannot sin.

Institutional apologies are tricky. Pope Francis was not personally responsible for the Indigenous residential schools, and most in his audience did not actually experience them. As one survivor commented, the abusers are the ones who should be apologizing, but, “they’re all gone now.” So Pope Francis’ words meant nothing to him.

There is a special term for an institutional apology by a religious body: the “ecclesial apology.” According to Jeremy Bergen, a professor of religious studies at Conrad Grebel University College in Ontario, ecclesial apologies are relatively new, appearing for the first time only after World War II, when German Protestant churches acknowledged that they failed to oppose the Nazis adequately. In the 1990’s, church apologies increased. He has written a book about this, entitled Ecclesial Repentance: The Churches Confront Their Sinful Pasts.

Professor Graham Dodds, a political science professor at Concordia University in Montreal who researches political apologies, says timing, word choice and contrition are important elements of an effective apology.

Pope John Paul II offered many ecclesial apologies during his reign, perhaps most memorably when he tucked a note into the Wailing Wall in Jerusalem. His successor, Pope Benedict XVI, apologized to the church in Ireland for clerical abuse. Pope Francis has apologized for many church wrongs during his reign.

Apologies are challenging. They get even more complicated when they involve an institution, and when the wrongs were committed in the past, by people no longer alive. Is it worth it? Does it make sense for a pope, or any leader, to apologize for wrongs committed by his predecessors? I suspect that the popes of this century would say yes. The book of James suggests that confession brings healing (James 5:16), and that’s what these popes were trying to do. A good apology is the first step; forgiveness is another, and reconciliation may follow upon that. None of it is easy, but the price of doing nothing is high too.

Pastor Sues Former Parishioners

Christians are not supposed to sue one another. If they have disputes, they should work them out privately, within the church, not in public courts. That’s the gist of I Corinthians 6:1-7.

Here’s an especially egregious violation of this command: a pastor has filed a lawsuit against former members of his church. One would expect a pastor to exhort his members not to sue, and to lead by example, not to be the plaintiff himself. Moreover, the people he is suing have accused him of sexual harassment, and he is suing them for defamation. Whether he’s guilty or innocent, this looks like a serious attempt to squelch accusations and even defame his accusers. And it could have a chilling effect on other victims who now have one more reason not to come forward.

Whether or not he’s guilty, and whether or not his accusers have defamed him, this kind of dispute belongs in the church, not in civil courts. Hopefully the Indiana court will dismiss this action and send it back to where it belongs, the church. Indeed, the former pastor’s denomination, the Presbyterian Church of America, has initiated disciplinary proceedings against him. According to some reports, the process is not going well – but that’s not a reason to bring this into the civil court system, contrary to God’s Word. That’s a reason to beef up church discipline systems so that they mete out justice even better than the legal system.